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Ask and Receive…Or Not

iStock_000008998317XSmallOne simple question for you. Do you ask for what you need?

Why is asking so hard? It’s because it puts you in a place of vulnerability – a place where you can be rejected. But guess what? By not asking, you’ve already rejected yourself-and if you’re not on your side, you’re off to a horrible start.

Asking sets off a cascade. The person or people who can fulfill your request get to step up to the plate. It gives room for the Universe to work its magic. Most importantly, it opens the space to allow what you need to come your way.

Think of not asking as inhibiting the flow – not only your own, but everyone else’s. You are holding up the process.

But, remember. You may or may not get what you asked for. If not, you’re probably not asking for the right thing. Believe that if it doesn’t come your way, it’s not what you need. Revise and dare to ask again. 😉

Inner Peace in 5 Words

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Hidden Value

Every decision you make is a direct reflection of what you value. values-1

Values run our lives.

Unfortunately, we have two levels of values – those that are conscious and those that often remain unspoken. And, many of those unspoken values are directing our paths.

For example, you may claim you value self-respect. However, unconsciously, you value companionship more. The end result is finding yourself in an unhealthy relationship. You’ve unknowingly created a hierarchy of values that betrays what you say.

For the longest time, I valued security without ever acknowledging it. Unfortunately, it was at the expense of my truest self. I was suppressing the truth of who I was in order to secure a future that wasn’t resonating with me. It wasn’t until I shed light on this buried value that I could eliminate it and make room for what has now become a core value – authenticity.

If life isn’t matching up with what you desire, you must ask yourself about hidden values. What are you clinging to? What needs to be replaced?

What do you really value?

What Are You Worth?

signs-of-low-esteem-18l3bsxAre you worthy of a vocation you love?

Are you worthy of healthy choices?

Are you worthy of trustworthy friends?

Are you worthy of beautiful surroundings?

Are you worthy of an intimate nurturing relationship?

Are you worthy of peace of mind?

Because if you don’t think you’re worth it, you won’t act as such.

You only invest in what you think is of value.

Do you value you?

What is your worth?

 

Two Life-Saving Questions

A retro post originally published Oct 16, 2010.

I woke up yesterday determined to have a productive day.  Instantly, two questions came to my mind.  Two questions that will guide me from here on out.

Question #1 – Who do I want to be?

Question #2 – What is necessary?

Whenever I’m getting ready to take any action, these questions should govern my decision.  It works for every aspect of living.  If I want to be a mogul, then it’s necessary to deal with tasks at hand and stop procrastinating.  If I want to be fit, then maybe I shouldn’t indulge in that second slice of red velvet cake with cream cheese icing.

So simple…Two little questions hold the key to everything.

Life 101

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7 Bold Lessons from Diana Nyad

Diana Nyad made history…again. She swam 110 miles from Cuba to Key West, Florida.elle-reader-swimmer-0612-h

Fifty-three hours non-stop.

No shark cage. No fins.

At 64 years of age.

I, on the other hand, did pretty much nothing except eat pastries in that same time period. I’m pretty sure I ate them within record time, but I digress…

I don’t say any of this to beat myself up. I am simply awed by the magnificence of this feat. Of course, I have my own hero’s journey to accomplish. However, in Diana Nyad’s journey I see some important life lessons we all could learn from.

1. Comfort isn’t promised.

A much younger Diana was a potential Olympic athlete until she developed endocarditis which kept her from trying out. Not to mention, during her previous attempts at the Cuba-Florida swim, she suffered anaphylactic shock, excruciating shoulder pain, asthma bouts, and jellyfish stings. Her physical discomfort was not enough to stop her quest. How uncomfortable are you willing to be?

2. To hell with setbacks.

Let’s face it. Sh*t shows up. Apparently, box jellyfish did not exist in those waters until reported in 2010-the year she decided to reattempt the feat.  Not to mention, Mother Nature often refused to cooperate. Rough waters and high winds had delayed her attempts and pushed her off course more than once. She didn’t fight or give up. She waited for the next appropriate time.

“A delay is not a denial.” ~Rev. James Cleveland

3. Others do not get to define “failure” for you.

Diana was successful on her fifth attempt. The four previous tries were often referred to as “failures.” Let’s be real. How many people could achieve what she did during those so-called failures? Call your “failures” trial runs and keep it moving.

4. Age aint nothing but a number.

Sixty. Damn. Four. Age is not a valid excuse. Need I say anything else?

5. Others will think you’re nuts.

When your dreams are big, they’ll be too big for the masses. When they say it’s impossible, they aren’t talking to you. They’re speaking for themselves.

6. Wanting to quit is par for the course. 

After her third attempt, Diana put out her equipment for trash collection. Even champions have their moments. That’s all it is. A moment. If it’s a “goal with soul” (Danielle Laporte’s phrase), the feeling will pass.

7. Revisit what calls to you. 

People may not realize that Diana didn’t swim for three decades. However, her dream called her back to finish what she once started – thirty years later.  Just goes to show that real dreams are tenacious. You can try and set them aside but what is a part of you will never leave you.

I have to thank Diana for reminding us of these seven basic truths. We’re all on our individual journeys and we could all use a little encouragement along the way. Which lessons resonate most deeply with you? Which ones do you struggle with most? Leave a comment.

Your Significance

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Turbulent Times

Stock PhotoAs I flew back to DC last weekend, after a brief vacation, I couldn’t help but be reminded of a very simple life lesson. One of the flights was moderately bumpy so instead of immersing myself in panic, I took the logical route…well, most of the time.

In short, I could feel the ascension as the pilot attempted to find a smoother altitude. Even though I know it’s for the best, there’s something about climbing higher that adds to the anxiety. Eventually, everything evened out like it usually does.

The lesson:

In life, you can passively allow the turbulence to have its way with you as you grip your seat for a bumpy ride. Or, you can choose to actively seek a smoother level. The climb may make you nervous, but chances are, the rocky times won’t last as long as had you passively waited in fear.

How do you deal with turbulent times?

 

It Could Be Worse

“It could be worse.”

There are two ways to look at this phrase. On one hand, it’s meant to be a show of gratitude. We say it to acknowledge that although something isn’t ideal, we’re grateful for the blessings that it does carry.

On the other hand, we can use this phrase to self-soothe and settle. We say it to feign contentment with the way things are.

Generally speaking, “it could be worse” means “it could be better.” When it comes to the quality of your life, there’s nothing worse than feeling like you’re living smaller than your capabilities.

So don’t.

Being thankful for being in a particular state doesn’t mean you have to stay in it.  As always, it’s your choice.