There is power in a pause. In cultures that are obsessed with movement, this is easily forgotten (even during a pandemic). You may be made to feel that you are “not on your game” or falling behind. That may lead to a sense of guilt or shame
To momentarily pause or to have an extended period of stillness is your right. It gives you the opportunity to recalibrate. In this space, you can realign then resume your activity with renewed meaning. Or, be confident in finding another activity that resonates.
Everyone has the experience of wishing they could go back and do something differently.
Perhaps you could have had a better performance or had chosen different words to express. Maybe you exhibited the worst aspects of your character. Whatever the situation, the desire for a better showing of self is common.
But what happens if there’s no second chance?
Understand that redemption is a work of self-compassion. In the end, it’s never about how you are seen. It’s all about how you now see yourself.
Imagine driving through the streets after blindfolding yourself. You would undoubtedly wreak havoc for yourself and for all encountered. By willingly ignoring the guideposts, there would be no means of navigating successfully.
Yet, many will go through life in just this way. Coincidences are written off. Gut feelings are doubted. Things that resonate are pushed aside and forgotten. These are life’s way of trying to get your attention to help direct you.
Ignore them and life becomes a series of unfortunate accidents. Choose to remove the blindfold.