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Emelia Sam
August 6, 2013
When You’re Ready
I had just finished exercising outdoors yesterday. As I was walking to my car, I noticed a couple walking their beautiful fluffy white sheepdog. They stopped momentarily to give him a bowl they filled with water. The dog happily stopped to partake of their offering.
When he finished, they picked up the bowl and attempted to continue their walk. The dog decidedly flopped down in place. They called him, coaxed him, begged him but the dog just contentedly sat there. He was sitting in the shade quietly observing all the happenings around him – well, all except his owners. He wasn’t being obstinate. He wasn’t actively resisting as dogs sometimes do (like this dog in the pic). He simply wasn’t ready to move.
Even when one owner tried to physically nudge him (mind you, this was a sizable dog), he simply looked at the owner. They were at a loss, but something told me it wasn’t the first time their pet was running the show. After a few minutes, the dog stood up and resumed walking unprompted.
So what the hell does this have to do with you?
Sometimes, you just aren’t ready…and that’s ok. Don’t confuse this state with stalling or being fearful. There are simply times when you know it’s not time to move. How do you tell the two apart? Well, with the latter, you will be content with staying still. There’s no angst associated with the choice to pause. There’s a difference between stagnancy and a conscious choice to hold your position.
Don’t be so hard on yourself. When it’s time, you will know and you will move accordingly. Trust.
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July 23, 2013
Stillness
It’s OK to be still.
Feel the bliss of doing nothing.
Catch your breath before the next leap.
Listen to the whispers that guide your existence.
Noise will never support your growth.
Slow down.
Wait.
It will happen.
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July 9, 2013
It’s YOUR Life
Forget the naysayers.
Doubt your doubts.
Drown out the voices offering unsolicited advice.
Discard false boundaries.
Ignore the advocates of mediocrity.
Embrace the butterflies in your stomach.
Trust your vision.
It’s YOUR life and you are the only one who gets to decide.
Go.
June 25, 2013
The Grown Woman’s Oath
I’m tired.
Tired of watching the madness around me. Tired of watching grown women acting like children. Tired of atrocious behavior being rewarded. Tired of the ubiquitous images of unattainable perfection. Tired of the stereotypes being perpetuated and subsequently adopted without question. Tired of the forced baby voices. Tired of the overall dumbing down of womanhood.
But most of all, I’m tired of the way that far too many of us have come to view ourselves and subsequently treat each other.
Who’s responsible?
Reality TV? Hollywood? Magazines? Plastic surgeons? Freakin’ photoshop?
We can challenge and change all the external influences we can identify. But, at the end of the day, nothing matters if we don’t address our internal beliefs. We all know that nothing really changes if we don’t change ourselves and our selves are all we have control over anyway.
I hate to use the words “should” or “shouldn’t” but what the hell. We shouldn’t be so hard on ourselves and we shouldn’t be treating each other in the ways that we do. Yeah, yeah. I’m supposed to be all spiritual and honoring others’ paths, blah, blah, blah. Sometimes you just have to call it like you see it.
There is way too much dysfunction displayed when it comes to women’s relationships and many are mistaking those caricatures for reality-and don’t get me started on the depiction of minority women. It’s time to stop internalizing the non-stop parade of BS and act like the adults we are.
So if you are a grown woman, take the pledge. If you aspire to be grown, take the pledge. If you couldn’t care less, you’re the one who needs to take the pledge most of all.
Like it. Share it. Most all, live it. We can do better.
THE GROWN WOMAN’S OATH (Download the text PDF) (Download the image)
Other women are not my competition.
The old paradigm of “there’s only room for one” continues to be broken down. We still have a way to go, but it is up to us to create room for the next woman – not elbow her out of the way.
I admit that gossip is pointless.
“Great minds discuss ideas; average minds discuss events; small minds discuss people.” – Eleanor Roosevelt (a debated credit, but I’m going with Eleanor.) Which mind do you have? Or are you just out of your mind?
I acknowledge that womanhood is self-defined.
Wear a Gucci belt or a tool belt. Have a child or don’t. Get married or not. There’s a spectrum of womanhood. Do you.
I recognize that women have value at every age.
There is no need to feel shame or shame others for the appearance of grey hair, wrinkles, or freakin’ cellulite. Your essence is ageless.
I do not use my emotions as an excuse (to act the fool).
Emotions are indicators that can be used to explore underlying issues. They are not to be suppressed but don’t use them to justify throwing over tables and choking your frenemies. Really?
I hold my sexuality as sacred.
There is nothing wrong with “being sexy.” However, if that is all you lead with, you will never be seen or respected for the whole person you are. It is part of you but it does not wholly define you. Celebrate it without compromising your wholeness.
I will give up comparison.
There will always be another woman with smaller thighs or a bigger bank account. The only comparison you need to make is how you used to be and how far you’ve come.
I always speak in my true voice.
Your voice is worthy of being heard. There is never any need to downplay your truth due to insecurity or in an attempt to manipulate.
I am certain of my exquisite nature.
Beneath the layers, you are a unique, invaluable, & divine being. Believe.
Do any of these resonate with you? What do you think is the worst problem that plagues women at the moment? Leave a comment.
June 11, 2013
Why “You Complete Me” is Total Bull$h!+
Don’t believe it. It’s crap. Absolute crap.
Let me save you the trouble. Nobody holds the key to you being “complete”…whatever that means. The desire to use another person to fill something in you that is missing is dangerous behavior. You are only setting yourself up for disappointment.
Note: if you’re into the whole dominatrix thing, no judgment. That’s your business. That’s not what I’m talking about here. I’m talking about effectively relinquishing control of your life to something outside of you in order to define yourself.
This is a HUGE problem. It’s not just a theme we find in “romantic” relationships. This is something that many people apply to several aspects of theirs lives. If it’s not the significant other, it their children. If it’s not the children, it’s the luxury home. If it’s not the luxury home, it’s the wardrobe. If it’s not the wardrobe, it’s the job title…and so on and so on.
As long as you’re looking outside of yourself for the next piece, you will always be at a loss. Why? Because there will always be something else you can acquire. It’s an endless pursuit. Besides, anything that is outside of yourself can be taken away from you at any time. Then what?
You aren’t looking for completion. What you want is wholeness.
Wholeness is something that comes from within. It’s an individual state. It’s a gift you give yourself.
Wholeness is being comfortable in your own skin. It’s knowing that you are taken care of. It’s about following your intuition and living your truth. It’s about alignment with your soul’s purpose. It’s about integrity.
Have you been chasing completion or creating wholeness? What things are you allowing to fill you right now? What sort of things have you struggled with in the past? How did you get past them? Leave a comment. This is a conversation worth having.
