Emelia Sam

February is undoubtedly the month of love. A couple of days before Valentine’s Day and people are getting ready for romance…and major disappointment. It’s been years since I felt the angst of another impending February 14th and no one to share it with. It has been years since I somehow felt that I was worth less if I didn’t receive some sort of acknowledgement.

And that’s not because I met the love of my life…most of my Valentine’s Days of the last decade have been spent by my damn self. And now that there is a special someone, I can verify that my interest in February 14th hasn’t changed.

Don’t get me wrong. It’s a beautiful thing to celebrate love – but it doesn’t belong to one day. Instead of the standard show of love on the designated day, I’m much more interested in sustaining a spiritual partnership that fills me consistently. I’m interested in the growth that it presents. I’m interested in the practice of love, not the imagery of it all.

This month in the 360SOUL sessions, I’ll be presenting “What’s Keeping Your Soulmate Away: 7 Reasons You’re Alone (even if you’re in a relationship).” Join me on Thursday, February 21st, 8pm EST for this free tele-seminar when we look at love from a spiritual standpoint. Really, the only standpoint that matters. Happy Valentine’s Day. <3

 1. Sometimes the people closest to you will  provide your hardest challenges.

2. Personal tragedy cannot stand in the way of your greatness. 

 3. Confidence is everything.

4.  Let the kid in you out to play once in a while. 

5. Don’t let external circumstances steal your  power.

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A Curated Life

 There’s a strange phenomenon going on. I’ve encountered several people who have developed a strange condition I call “Facebook Envy.” There’s a tendency to feel less about oneself based upon the images posted by friends and sometimes, complete strangers. It drives me absolutely nuts to hear people tormenting themselves over what amounts to a curated life (coined by my brilliant friend K. Neycha Herford).

Here’s the thing. If you suffer from this kind of envy, you are making a story to string together pictures from an incomplete representation. You are filling in the blanks without knowing true context.

What you won’t see pictures of:

• Empty bank accounts
• Extramarital affairs
• Problem children
• Overextended credit
• Bad habits/addictions
• Insecurities
• Failing health
• Depression
• Dying dreams

 You cannot compete against a distortion of reality. (Tweet this.)

 If you are immersed in the details of someone else’s life, take that energy and invest it in your own. Do the work. Comparison gets you nowhere. Create your own experience. One that gets you excited about where you are and where you’re headed. When you’re thrilled with your own life, you won’t be so quick to covet. 

To cure jealousy is to see it for what it is: dissatisfaction with self. ~Joan Didion

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The Evolutionary’s Manifesto available on Amazon ($.99)

“I Haven’t Found Myself…but I’m Still Looking” available on Amazon ($4.99)

“How to Create the Life You Really Want: 20 Small strategies for Big Changes” FREE e-book!

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How can you possibly capture love with words? It’s impossible but I just had to attempt it. Especially after my last post, I had to do something to remove the aftertaste of the sometimes bitter life experiences. I had to remind myself about the goodness that life has to offer…a bird’s song, a first kiss, a mother’s hug, a best friend’s encouragement. I had to immerse myself in thinking about love…

Fortunately, Aspire magazine was looking for articles about love so I submitted this piece, “What is Love?” As I was writing, I found that it basically wrote itself. It was an outpouring of Divinity that was begging to be expressed. Hope you enjoy it as much as I did while writing, remembering, willfully submerging…

I can’t.  No. Actually, I won’t. 

See, I used to think that following a “spiritual path” meant I shouldn’t feel things such as anger. I thought it meant that eventually I would remain unfazed in the face of sheer ignorance. It also meant I wouldn’t judge something by calling it ignorant. Fail.

However, there are things that do not sit well with me. And that’s perfectly OK.

I now understand that spirit is not neutral. It is non-judgmental but it is definitely not neutral. Spirit operates from a space of love. Love is certainly not neutral. That would be indifference. Spirit is not indifferent.

When I feel an emotion creeping up within, I don’t try to suppress it. I try not to act on it, but to examine its origins. Is it about my ego or is it something else?

In this case, it’s something else. It’s another thorn.

See, my “anger” really just signifies a dissonance between what I’m witnessing and what spirit tells me. It’s up to me to make a choice to transform that emotion into something more useful…which brings me to the point of this post.

I will not get into an argument about gun control. I would love to live in a world free of them, however, I am well aware that we have not yet reached the rainbows and unicorns phase of our existence.  I choose not to own a firearm, but I will draw no judgment upon those who choose otherwise for protection of self and family.

I am uncomfortable with them because I only know them in one context. As graphic as it may be, I know what it is to see and treat more than one face shattered by a single bullet. I understand what it is to literally see intestines escape the abdominal cavity through pierced skin.  I am all too aware of the physical ramifications and psychological damage that can be inflicted post-trauma. I have a past residency in Washington DC to “thank” for shattering the relative innocence of my Canadian upbringing.

When the Newtown tragedy first happened, I was one of the people who felt it inappropriate for the political debates to immediately begin – especially before anyone knew the full details. As we’ve witnessed, it’s impossible to keep the politics out of it, but I’m more concerned with the spiritual perspective.

When a segment of the population fights vehemently to keep such weapons available, what does it say about us as a whole? If I believe myself to be a spiritual being then I have to recognize my connection to every other being on this planet. Consequently, I have to ask myself about my role in countering what I consider to be a  greatly disturbing vibration. How do I affect the situation when I’m not a lobbyist or a lawmaker?

Then I realize that I make my mark through what I do best.

I’m not an activist in the traditional sense of the word, but I suppose I am a spiritual activist when it comes to my writing and shared thoughts. I’m a proponent of consciousness using a keyboard, a pen, and my voice as instruments.

My role is to inspire people to live their highest expression. It is my duty to bring light wherever I can and encourage people to get back to their truest selves. As I always say, you can choose to add to the pool of positivity or negativity with every action. Eventually, if enough of us choose the positive, we decidedly tip the scales. This is the key to every movement that ever succeeded.

I firmly believe that all society dysfunction is a result of personal dysfunction. If I can get one more person to look inward, then I am helping to tip the scales.

All lightworkers have the same assignment and as idealistic as it may sound, together we can make a difference. The possibilities are far more important that the immediate probabilities. We may not get to see the long-term effects of our efforts but that is irrelevant if we truly believe in what we’re doing. It is our responsibility to lay a spiritual foundation from which all is possible.

I’m in this physical world even though I firmly understand I am not of it. Do I succumb to its sometimes questionable ways or do I use spirit as my compass? With one foot on this shaky ground, I will aim for the elusive rainbows and unicorns as I have been charged.

Will you?

I was so honored to be interviewed by the wonderful Avalaura Beharry for her Spiritual Sage Radio program. We talked a little bit about my spiritual journey and what led me to write my first book. Though we’ve all taken different routes, we’re all experiencing similar journeys. Hopefully, my story helps to illuminate your own path as we all walk together. Here’s the direct link: SS Radio#4

“We’re all just walking each other home.” ~Ram Dass

This has to be one of my favorite things that I have ever written. I’ve been waiting for it to be published for about two months.  Positively Positive is an extremely popular site and it’s an honor to have the opportunity. To reach a large audience and have the work resonate is beyond humbling…and exciting.

Enjoy.   The Evolutionary’s Oath